I don't want to be grown up, and forced to havea job and get a life and all that. I want to be irresponsible and childish and lazy. I want my teenage years back, when I thought I was the MAN and didn't have any real ability to change anything, and was indignant about it. Now the responsibility rests somewhat heavier on my shoulders, and it isn't as fun as I thought it might be.
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*rolls eyes* So what? Everyone grows up eventually. You can only hope to live a life that has more ups than downs, and more joy than loss. So get over it. You haven't even begun to live your life til' you turn 21, thats when you can start to do all of the good stuff. Party, go to college, have sex (with someone you love), and other great stuff.
So don't complain about missing your teenage years, you know that they weren't that easy.
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quote: You haven't even begun to live your life til' you turn 21, thats when you can start to do all of the good stuff. Party, go to college, have sex (with someone you love), and other great stuff.
How old are you again, Advent? Partying, college, and sex are not all the good stuff. And most people manage to do most of that before they turn 21. Turning 21 can be a difficult thing for some people. If you look at it as more than an opportunity to drink legally, the new responsibility can seem a bit overwhelming. The idea of being an adult, and therefore responsible for all your own actions (hopefully) without the excuse of age to fall back on can seem pretty depressing. I can empathize with you there, buddy. But, dude. Now you can DRINK! Think of the sweetness that will ensue! Bars to conquer, women to impress, trees in other peoples yards to water, strangers bathrooms to befoul!
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I feel pretty old too. I'm a year away from being 2 decades old. That's crazy. I know I shouldn't be complaining, but 20 just sounds like I'm not a kid anymore.
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It's just a matter of attitudes, all you early-20s people who are worrying. I'm in my early 30s, and I'm still just as irresponsible as ever, so don't worry about it. You can be, too! I seriously had moments of still thinking I was 18 until I was at least 27. Now I'm settled in feeling around 22, which was a great age. With the proper balance of immaturity and luck, along with excellent role models, (thanks, Dad!) you can feel childish forever! Posts: 7954 | Registered: Mar 2004
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And if you think you're getting old, well, you are. 1 year per year. It's an obvious truth, but one that took a while to register with me.
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Dude, your life can be as horrible as you want to make it. Ironically, fear of how horrible it COULD be is usually what drives most of us to make our lives as horrible as they are.
Don't be motivated by fear. Choose to be motivated by hope. Have another margarita.
That's my advice, anyway. Worth what you paid for it.
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Twenty-one's been the best year of my life thus far.
I have no doubt twenty-two will be even better.
I do get scared, sometimes, about aging -- mostly about losing my mobility, the ability to depend on my body to do all the things I now do without thinking, to run and stretch and bend. But that ought to be a long way in the future yet, and baring an unfortunate accident should come on gradually. I assume I'll adapt. . .and that something I don't know about yet will compensate. Like the right to complain about how much better things were in my day .
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*hits self in head* How could I forget that you can legally drink?! Oh well, and as for the being able to party and have sex before 21. Well, you can do alot more of both, and they can be WAY more fun with drinking involved (in the parties I mean, not in sex).
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Before I say anything else, happy birthday.
Now, I'm twenty. But I love being twenty. I think every year of my life has been better than the one before it.
Just wondering, what did you like about the inability to change things? The exact opposite of that is what I like about getting older.
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You'r not old untill your dead unless you want to be old. Me I plan to stay young watch stupid cartoons and goof off till the day I die. Well ofcorse with some responsable things thrown in. Unless I win big time in the lottery then I drop the responsable act. Guess I should actully buy some lotto tickets then.
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Today I made play-doh. For my five year old nephew who's here visiting, but still. I got to squish my hands in the warm dough, mixing in the coloring. It was fun.
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I'll soon be 37, and oh my . . . I didn't like squishy playdo when I was five, and I still don't . . . *grin*
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quote:Originally posted by Celaeno: Before I say anything else, happy birthday.
Now, I'm twenty. But I love being twenty. I think every year of my life has been better than the one before it.
Just wondering, what did you like about the inability to change things? The exact opposite of that is what I like about getting older.
Well I didn't like that, per se, but now it doesn't seem so terribly bad. For instance, I wasn't liable for alot of my own mistakes, and now I really am, which is just frightening. basically I feel like an imposter, a sheep in wolve's clothing, and I don't know where I am in my little world- you know? I suppose we each feel a touch of this, but its nonetheless disconcerting to be getting older.
It exists! There are a lot of pressures on twentysomethings, and while different from the past, I think there is more urgency and competition to succeed than ever. It doesn't help that we are constantly reminded of the flailing economy/job market. I can't tell you how many people I know who are going to grad school because they are either afraid of making definite future decisions or conducting arduous job hunts.
You can still be lazy and childish after 20. You just need to be more selective about it. :-)
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Honestly, I completely understand being freaked out by the "real life" type things. I'm turning twenty-one in three weeks. For me, though, it's more like...I feel like I'm running out of time, maybe. I mean, I started in my field when I was sixteen, and while I impressed people plenty when they thought I was in my twenties, my age was a pretty nice ace up my sleeve.
Now, it's different because the card I wait to play is the specifics of my experience.
It's...weird. So yeah, I see where you're coming from.
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pH, I always thought you were older than I am. I turn twenty-two in September. Maybe it's because I've read about your experiences, and figured someone who's done so much would not be younger than I am. But I did know you were in college so it probably should have registered, since I'm in the older group of students at this point.
Orincoro, I know what you mean. I feel old often. in the responsibilities area. Though I don't have many of those at this point. It does bring the pessimist in me out.
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I hated a lot of my teenage years, but I absolutely loved 19-23. 24 has been a bit of a rocky ride due to circumstances beyond my control, but 25 is shaping up to be pretty sweet.
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I'm going to be 35 in a week, my hubby is going to be 38 this year. We have a 16 month old baby. We stay up and play video games still. We watch all the Adult Swim cartoons religiously. We procratinate. We have a pile of dirty clothes on the floor frequently. We eat bad food. We quote movies at each other all the time. We're kids in adult clothing. The only thing that makes us different from our 20's selves is that we know when to pretend to be adults now at least. Like at work. Or when it's time to pay bills. You can fimd ways to stay young and be an adult. Honestly adulthood just sneaks up on you! Wait until you have a kid and hear yourself say things like your mother! Then you're going to feel old!
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quote:Originally posted by Steev: 3.5 years before I'm 40. 40 isn't old. 80 is old.
"Old" is whatever you are, plus ten years.
As for myself, I am 22. I kinda live on my own and have made the decision to take time off from college and try my luck in the "real world", so that makes me feel old. If I still lived with my parents, I'm sure I'd still feel 17. And if I had a kid, I'm sure that would make me feel 30. So I don't think numerical age is so much the issue as what actually happened in your life.
That said, I don't mind the idea of becoming older, at least not physically. If I maintain my lifestyle of moderate physical activitiy (bicycling instead of driving, basically), there's no reason why I shouldn't see 40 or 50 in reasonably good shape. What bothers me more is what I'm going to do with my life between now and 50; that's... scary.
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