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Okay, so last night I went with about nine girls on my floor to my friend's house for a barbecue. After a while two boys from my friend's ward dropped by, including one who we shall call Grey Hoodie Guy (GHG). We're talking out on the patio and we decide to play volleyball. I end up on the same team as GHG. We're all goofing off and having fun when my three good friends decide to leave early. I stay about an hour longer and leave with everyone else.
I'm sitting in my friend's room after coming back, and here's what she says:
Friend: "So, who's the guy in the grey hoodie that you were flirting with this evening?"
Me: "What guy?"
At this point, I'm told how much I was flirting with GHG.
Seriously, I wasn't trying to flirt with HGH. We were just having fun. No numbers were asked for or exchanged. But apparently, flirting comes so naturally that I didn't even notice.
I'm officially weirded out. I like to think that I don't act differently around guys. It kinda bothers me that I'm the sort of girl that seems to go ga-ga over members of the opposite sex.
O_o
Edit: Okay, he was cute, but that's beside the point!
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You strike me as just funny and, well, sarcastic. I think people like that often seem to be flirting with people just because they're talking and joking a lot. People have called me a flirt for stuff like that. I wouldn't worry about it too much except to make sure that you're not leaving a trail of heartbreak behind you.
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You're an unattached girl in a culture that expects rapid betrothal, and you're not particularly good at hiding your emotions. I'd imagine that you found him cute, didn't manage to conceal the fact, and played off his positive reactions to you. And while I'm speculating, I'd guess that your friend is both slightly jealous AND simultaneously encouraging cultural expectations.
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I can't say it any better than TD, but that has never stopped me before.
I think it is great that you flirt and you are not aware of it. It means you are open and innocent, capable of sharing your feelings without guile or expectation.
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Seriously though, whats wrong with being a flirt? I'm told I flirt all the time...I'm single, I like the company of women, and I flirt ourtageously with them all whether they're single, engaged or married. Doesnt mean anything; it's just in my nature.
If you had fun, and enjoyed his company, theres no harm in letting him know it. If it leads to something more, then it was time well spent. And if it doesnt, he'll remember you fondly as being that fun girl he flirted with at the volleyball game. Enjoy your flirting, I say. Posts: 90 | Registered: Aug 2002
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>> We were just having fun. No numbers were asked for or exchanged. <<
That's what flirting is. If you get to the number-swapping phase, things have gone beyond simple flirting and are in that nebulous region between flirting, the Friend Zone, and dating.
>> It kinda bothers me that I'm the sort of girl that seems to go ga-ga over members of the opposite sex. <<
Huh? Flirting and going ga-ga are not at all the same thing. And you don't necessarily have to be attracted to someone to flirt with them, though it helps. Sometimes flirting is just good clean fun and afterward everyone feels better about themselves.
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You're all right...it was just weird how they were talking about how I should give my one friend flirting lessons.
In case you haven't noticed, I'm a bit of a nerd (gasp!) and if I tend to flirt with people either the guys never noticed or they weren't particularly interested. No harm done, except from now on I'll probably try to flirt less if I manage to notice that I'm flirting at all.
Dan, you're not Grey Hoodie guy, are you? I thought you were in Russia!
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All I know is that on will flirt with anyone they think is attractive. I notice that I am flirting with a person and continue, or afterwards I realize it. Either way, you should not be weirded out.
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quote: It kinda bothers me that I'm the sort of girl that seems to go ga-ga over members of the opposite sex.
If you're doing it right, they'll be ga-ga over you...not the other way around.
No, seriously, flirting can be controlled and accurate, it doesn't have to include drooling on some dude's shoes.
I flirt on a regular basis with most guys I talk to. It has nothing to do with being very attracted to them or anything like that, it's just who I am. Don't worry about. Just beeeeee yourself.
(But be careful. Don't flirt yourself into a corner.)
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I flirt all the time (read: a lot ) often without even realising. It gets me into trouble sometimes... Heh. I guess that's the price we pay. I would not say it's unusual, or that flirting is a bad thing. It can be, though, when one person takes it the wrong (right?) way. *sigh*
Either that or people just think I'm flirting when really I'm not. Yeah, actually, that sounds way more likely. *nods emphatically*
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