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None of my older siblings had gone to prom and I was dead set against going years before my actual prom. Then, one of my best friend's teachers decided to make it her personal project to make her go. She knew that we were best friends so she decided that if she encougarged me to go, then my friend would go too. She was on the Senior Committee or whatever, and got us free tickets, dresses, etc. It still took a LOT of convincing from other friends, because I didn't want to on principle. But in the end with everything free and SOOOO much pressure to go, I went ahead and went. I didn't have a date due to deciding to go the night before, so I just went with a group of friends and I was shocked by having a LOT of fun! I was really glad that I went.
So Raia, if you have fun people to hang out with, why not go? If nothing else, it's fun to see everybody all prettied up!
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I vote Raia goes too. She can borrow stryker, or she doesn't need a date. And she will have fun
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I leave you all for a bit, and look what happens? A thread making the board coerce me to go to prom! *shakes head* Kidyanna, what will you get up to next?
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wait no, pick someone else, raia IM me, and we can pick you the perfect date, do you think fletcher would let chance come? that sounds fun.
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I should note that Lalo's suggestion is nigh implied in my post. Prom itself isn't incriminating enough, though you should certainly go anyway.
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I'm sorry Raia, I understand that you don't really want to go, but I will miss you there. It is one night I wanted to spend with friends and now you aren't going. Well I will live, and stop bugging you. Wow stryker told you what time he would pick you up, but not me, unfair.
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As someone who didn't go to Prom because the opportunity was not available to me having been homeschooled, I will tell you that the first six months of college all of the girls are going to re-hash and compare their prom experiences frequently. After that no one cares. It may have bothered me not because I didn't go to one, but because I didn't have the Choice of whether I could go or not.
And as I recall you are going to Isreal so you probably won't hear the same amount of flak, since as far as I know Prom is only a U.S. tradition. (Do Canadians have proms?)
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We could always have an on-line Hatrack Formal. Or just save your perfect hair and perfect dress for the Rackademy Awards.
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Canadians sure do have proms, and they're just as lame as American ones
Not to say that I didn't enjoy my prom, but it didn't change my life. Nobody really cares. The stories you tell at college are of trips and competitions. Plays you've been in, concerts, shows you've seen. And how much you miss Mom's cookin' Prom ranks pretty low on that scale. Nobody will ask to see your yearbook, nobody will ask for a list of references to see how popular you were. In the end, the only person who'll really care about what you did is you.
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Bob, Prom probably ranks higher on the female scale than the male as far as discussion topics go. And now that I think about it I think it was discussed a bit sophomore year too. After that everyone was too busy to reash something so trivial anymore.
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Ha ha! I'll just add that to my list of reasons why I'm glad I'm not a girl
Thing is, I don't think doing something you wont enjoy just so you'll be able to talk about it afterwards is the best reason to be doing it (shut up, twink). It's not like you're going to be ostracized for it and it's not like you won't understand what the other girls are talking about. "Prom, what is this prom you speak of? Dresses AND balloons!? The mind boggles, I just can't picture it!"
I mean, really, if you want to be prepared for every topic of conversation that may come up in college there are a whole lot more things you're probably going to have to do than go to prom.
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Bob you are absolutely right, in the grand scheme of things, it probably isn't going to matter for the rest of your life whether you went to prom or not (unless you behave incredibly stupidly when it comes to your sexuality)
However she also needs to weigh the fact that she might have a slight twinge of regret about not going at some point in her life. Considering I have far stronger twinges about other things in my life it won't be a major thing. But, if she indulges in "what would it have been like if..." daydreams on a regular basis already and it is a normal part of her character, then she should consider going. If however she is like I think she is, generally down to earth and endowed with a healthy helping of common sense (which isn't at all common) then she probably won't beat herself up emotionally for the next decade for not going to prom.
There is the just plain fun aspect in its favor, or maybe having not been to one I have romanticized it too much. My take on actually going though is that it is one of the few nights you actually get to dress up like a princess and be radiant and know that you are beautiful, even if your feet hurt like hell by the end of the night. While I have an extrordanarily practical nature every now and again I wish I could indulge in that aspect of myself. But most of the time I don't have time nor would it be appropriate in my working environment.
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You do realize that we're in complete agreement, right, Banna? She's a smart girl and understands the pros and cons of going. Well she regret it, will she have fun, etc.
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I have told her countless times to go. But what is one more? Got to prom, or else.... :: shakes fist menacingly ::
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Sober, she doesn't have to go if she doesn't want to. If she is happier not going then respect her decision. As stated previously it ISN'T the end of the world if she doesn't go!
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As someone who arranges After Prom events for a living, if your school is having an After Prom, go to it at least.
I have seen way to many drunk kids pull up to the event after its over, just to make sure that they had more fun getting drunk than the other kids had doing Sumo, or Karaoke, or winning TV's and new Cars.
One drunk night is pretty much like every drunk night. But an After Prom only comes around once or twice in your lifetime. I mean, how often do you get a chance to throw yourself on a velcro wall?
If your school doesn't do an After Prom, or it is a lame affair consisting of pizza and old movies on VHS, give them my card for next year.
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quote: My take on actually going though is that it is one of the few nights you actually get to dress up like a princess and be radiant and know that you are beautiful, even if your feet hurt like hell by the end of the night.
Aside from the feet part, that was my experience with Junior Prom. It's one of the two days of my life I actually looked beautiful.
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quote:As someone who didn't go to Prom because the opportunity was not available to me having been homeschooled, I will tell you that the first six months of college all of the girls are going to re-hash and compare their prom experiences frequently. After that no one cares. It may have bothered me not because I didn't go to one, but because I didn't have the Choice of whether I could go or not.
I can't recall one single discussion rehashing proms in my first six months of college or at any other time during college, to tell you the truth.
I didn't go to my high school prom either. It wasn't because we didn't have one, because we did. I didn't have a date and I don't think people really went without dates in my school. I never really bothered to find out because, to tell you the truth, I really didn't care that much.
At this point in my life, not having gone to a prom is a blip in the horizon, having no significance to my life.
And it definitely won't be a topic of discussion in Israel, either, I can guarantee you that.
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I went, but it was so boring we left after about half an hour. We went out for éclairs and then went back to his house. His parents weren’t home yet, and we later learned that they’d met up with my parents taking pictures at the grand march and gone out for pie together. Yep, you read that right, we beat our parents home on prom night. Posts: 9866 | Registered: Apr 2002
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quote: Take a gay boy with you. We make excellent dates!
Yes indeed, this is a true statement. My date to my senior prom was a gay boy, and we had a complete blast! It was my favorite of my high school dances (granted I only went to three).
I don't have anything to add to this prom debate, Raia. Though I'm one of the people that falls into the "do it because you get to dress up like a princess" category. I do think you will have a fun night if you go, but only if you go because you want to and not because of all the pressure. But then, you know that, and many people have already said that. I'm shutting up now... Posts: 1635 | Registered: Aug 2002
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I wish I'd seen all this before I let them talk me into it today... well, I didn't really have a choice. Let me quote blacwolve at the lunch table: "Oh, you do have a choice! It's either go to prom, or get decapitated." Yeah, um, real tough decision there.
I mean, I probably won't regret going... it should be fun, with all my friends. But it will probably be awkward, since they all have dates, and I don't even have a dress yet, let alone someone to go with. I just kind of got sick of the whole idea behind prom a few weeks ago, so I wasn't going to go, since it was a lot of pressure, and stress, and tension where it wasn't necessary. But oh well. I should shut up about that, just get a dress somewhere (which I told my lunch groupies that they're paying for, since they're making me go), and shelve my pride... let them drag me there. It's not like I've ever been assertive about anything, why should this matter?
I'll post after prom, and tell you all if it was a total disaster.
Thanks for all the advice everyone... if I had a choice here, I would consider it all carefully before giving in to my friends! As it is, I read it all thoroughly. And incidentally, I would absolutely love to wear that dress that Mrs. M chose for me in her 'Rackademy Awards fashion thread, but alas, I don't have that one!
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I'll pitch in ten dollars to the buy raia a dress fund. I'm sorry that we convinced you to go, but I really don't think I was planning on going untill you had my date ask me.
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Well, I have a dress... can't really back out now, can I?
It's dark red (a sort of wine color), and it's really pretty. I'm starting to feel a little better about this now.
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yay yay yay yay yay I can't wait well I guess i can, I tried a hair style today, it was awful.
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We leave for prom in about 2 hours, well the dinner portion, so Wish us luck in getting raia there (just kidding she is coming date or no date)
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I'm glad you're going to prom, Raia. I convinced Toretha to go last year and she was gorgeous. Fyfe also decided to go this year and let me do her hair and stuff and it was fun. Also, I took a 14-year-old to prom last year. Your prospective dates' parents must be real pansies. :-P
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