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Okay, I need some ideas for a good first date. That's right. A thirty tear old asking for dating advice. Who's pathetic now? Anyway, I wanted to come up with something fun and original (ie; not dinner and a movie) but also something that's casual enough for a first date and doesn't smack TOO much of romance. I'm really good at planning dates for a little later in a relationship, but the first one always seems to throw me. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks hatrack, you rock.
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Where are you geographically? Because a picnic is nice . . . if you're not somewhere it is currently freezing/snowing/raining.
'Course, it's November. There aren't many places that it's nice out right now. Even here in sunny SoCal it's been cold. (Well, cold for US, anyway.)
But if there's a place you could do an indoor picnic . . . ? Dunno, maybe if a mall near you has some of the little courtyards with seats and stuff?
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You know, the thing about a dinner is that it doesn't throw anyone off track. You can talk freely, everybody knows what the rules are, there's no guessing games. You invite someone to dinner, it's a friendly expression of interest; invite someone to go bungee jumping, or whatever creativeness you can come up with, and it's an invitation to consider you a whacko. Dinner and a movie is a cliche because it works.
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I like first dates where you can talk and get to know the person...as that is the point of dating
Possible ideas: Play pool Bowling (already said, but I third the motion) Mini Golfing Amusement Park- Any nearby?
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I still like the idea of an indoor picnic. Here's a list. Having checked your profile (d'oh!), and consulted yahoo maps, I believe some are near you, WA.
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I agree with Coccinelle; miniature golf is good for first dates. If your miniature golf courses are like the ones around here, you'll pick up some good landscaping ideas too. Afterward you could take your date to the garden store and buy some mulch.
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quote: It's an especially good date if neither of you know a thing about how to bowl correctly.
So it was a mistake for me to take that girl bowling and then manage a score of 205 on the first game?
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If the weather isn't bad a picnic coupled with some kite flying is an entertaining and innocuous event. I'd also suggest lunch with an outing to a museum or zoo or somesuch.
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Let's put it this way, skillery: if I had been drinking soda, my laptop would be very sticky right now.
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Where in Oklahoma? 'Cause I might be able to give you some specific advice, seeing as how I know the area and all...
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Oooooh picnic!!!! I wouldn't mind if my hubby took me on a picnic! I love picnics! And if we could have one near that park where the elephants are all working elephants and we could watch them, that would be soooo coool!!!!
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Thanks. You're right. Tulsa is much better.
So which one of these do you suggest?
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I am not a dating expert. I have been on a total of three dates, none of which were planned by me. But I think it never hurts to find out what the other person is interested in. Does she like, say, Mexican food? Take her to an appropriate restaurant. Professional sports? Movies? Plays? Go to one of those events. Is she into stargazing/astronomy? Wait until the next meteor shower, or just find a place where you can see the sky clearly. Does she enjoy video games? Invite her over for some Halo 2 (if she feels comfortable with non-public places).
Other things: Do a community service event Play chess Wander around a bookstore or library Get ice cream or hot drinks Study party! (Maybe it's just the engineer in me, but I like to know that a potential partner is proficient in basic math and science...sadly enough, I find problem-solving abilities attractive) Go dancing. To get away from cliches, you could avoid the clubs and take lessons somewhere. Find one of those places that lets you paint pre-made pottery.
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I second playing pool...I took my dad to an upscale pool hall around here and he was amazed at the number of women playing pool there, either whiole tables of them or on dates.
It is fun, is an indoor activity, and almost anyone can play a little bit.
Also, just because you aren't good at something doesn't mean it is a bad idea for a date....bowling or pool, or anything else for that matter. It isn't a compitition, usually, the point is to get together and talk, and to get to know one another better.
I am a very good pool player...so before I was married, I rrarely took any dates to a pool hall, because it wouldn't be very fun for either of us. I would be bored, because I couldn't play fuul speed, and she would be bored becasue she still wouldn'tr usuall win, even if I was holding back a bit. Somethines the girls I dated were very competitive types, and they would get mad at me for letting them win a few.
So take her to something you like, but aren't all that good at...you will enjoy it more, probably.
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