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[QUOTE]Originally posted by mimsies: In fact I know he just gets hang ups about odd things.
We should be friends. He has the same reason: He just can't help thinking whatever it is he is obsessing about.
He probably isn't staying with you only because he doesn't love you or doesn't want to be alone. I think it could be that he acts that way because he spends too much time thinking about you, and then those darned "thoughts" (OBSESSIONS) start kicking in. It is what I've just started thinking about my husband.
I get ovarian cysts every so often.
Stop doing that. !!
My doc showed my husband pics of mine before and after surgery while I was still out. I really wish she didn't do it, but she couldn't possibly have known that I would have thought it was such a bad idea. He seems to be doing well about seeing them, though.
I think what really makes me sad is that I REALLY love him.
I understand this one, too!
I hope that you have friends and family that can help you to remember that you are OK.
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We went to a really good counselor for awhile, but she was an intern, and when she graduated she wasn't allowed to practice anymore. He refuses to go back to another counselor. I wish he wouldn't refuse. I think we were really making headway with the help of our counselor.
Anastasia cool, allies in dealing with weird husbands!
Although, in a discussion when I brought up splitting up he said "No" but not because he loved me too much or anything like that, but because... He doesn't want to be alone, he doesn't have anyone else he is interested in, and he HATES the dating game. Nothing about love in his reasoning. nothing even about it's better for the child if we are together (which is how I feel).
Why I haven't left him yet, well, I really love him (although I don't usually know why), I could not afford to be a stay at home, home schooling mom if we weren't together, Sequoyah would suffer, Sequoyah would be sad, Sequoyah would have a hard time with it, It would be hard on Sequoyah.
Yes my family is awesome, and I have some friends that are pretty wonderful too. And according to Sequoyah, I am the best mommy in the world. He is such a blessing.
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quote:Originally posted by mimsies: Nothing about love in his reasoning. nothing even about it's better for the child if we are together (which is how I feel).
Some things may just be easier for him to say than anything about love.
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Permit me to point out that not many husbands bring up the dreaded "L" word - I will defer to any wives who wish to contradict me as I am not a husband.
I suspect the husbands discussed are subconsciously wrestling with issues and are fumbling through something he doesn't really consciously understand and doesn't know how to process the problem, never mind address it.
The whole "long hair" thing has got to be a smokescreen for something else because I have a difficult time believing that is enough to turn anyone off from sex, unless it was a serious issue and it would have appeared long before now.
quote:Originally posted by TMedina: The whole "long hair" thing has got to be a smokescreen for something else because I have a difficult time believing that is enough to turn anyone off from sex, unless it was a serious issue and it would have appeared long before now.
I truly did mean that my husband fusses about the length of my hair. The point is that some people do find major faults with minor issues. Also, it is something we've "discussed" on and off for many years--not something new.
And, I promise that I really do love my husband, I have cut my hair before, and would do it again if I thought there was any chance that *this time* he would be happy with it.
I'm not comfortable discussing these details of my marriage--I only thought it might bring comfort to someone else to know that she wasn't alone.
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quote:Originally posted by TMedina: Anastasia - I wouldn't dream of asking you to discuss the details of something so very private. -Trevor
Hah! I thought that perhaps you thought the words "long hair" had "never bathes" as a referent.
Although this is rather off-topic, I had a calculator named Trevor once. Nice name. I thought about reusing it on my son, but my husband was quite adamant about not naming children after calculators.
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Well, but that theory falls down when you think of all the skinny(starving)people in the world with nothing to chase.
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You gain wieght when you ingest more calories than you use. You lose weight when you use more calories than you injest. There are many things that affect weight, but I think they affect how many calories you use and/or get rid of.
We eat more. We eat larger portions, and those portions are denser with calories.
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And we have all kinds of indoor entertainment - kids don't go outside to play anymore they sit inside witht he tv or the xbox and don't run and get the exercise they should.
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Yeah, I like to eat. I don't eat sweets every day or anything, but I want to be able to enjoy a piece of cake if it's someone's birthday and not feel "guilty" about what I'm eating.
So, I will exercise enough that I don't have to obsess over what I'm eating. I've stopped obsessing over food just like I've stoppd obsessing over the scales. The only numbers I do keep track of are miles, and that's because I am plotting my total miles walked on a map to see if I can walk across America.
I do think that the quality of food you buy matters - in other words, I think that over-processed, chemical injected beef at the supermarket is not as good for you as free range beef is. We buy our beef directly from a local rancher, and when I have people over and they help me cook they are amazed at the lack of fat in the meat. We are out of our "good" beef and I had to buy ground chuck at the supermarket and I was amazed and appalled at the amount of fat I had to drain off the meat after I browned it. I'm not used to it, our beef is so lean.
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I bought a reel mower a few months ago. I did so for a variety of reasons, but one of them was the fact that I don't particularly enjoy fueling up gas powered mowers, but actively enjoy fueling up myself. I'd rather eat something tasty to supply the energy to turn the blades than feel scandalized at the price of gas a little more frequently than I already do.
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Buy a black and decker electric mower. I love mine.
I recently tried to start getting back in shape. I'm not overweight I don't think, I'm 5'7, 20, male, and 146lbs. But I feel like it's a lot more fat than muscle, and I haven't been on a date in a year, which I'm chalking up to a combination of low self esteem and being chubby.
Plus it's difficult when my four best friends are girls, and they never fail to point out the hot guys around, who look nothing like me. To a certain degree I want to be healthier and have more energy, but mostly I just want for once to be the guy in a bathing suit at the beach that a group of girls fawns over when they walk by.
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Lyrhawn, you would be surprised at the number of women who find a one-pack belly attractive.
Belle, one of our supermarkets sells "Smart Chicken" now. We also have a Whole Foods near us, and I try to buy most of our meat there. I get chicken tenders and patties there because chicken in any form is a staple of my daughter's diet.
We also have a bison farm near us, but I have not dared to try it yet. it is supposed to be very good.
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bison is very good. Very lean, a little dry (depending on how it is processed) If you buy some, be careful to not overcook it or it will be so dry you can hardly eat it. Try it, you'll like it!
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I agree with Farmgirl about the bison. Good and healthy, and dries out easily. I used to buy it at the local farmer's market, till I moved. Posts: 1990 | Registered: Feb 2001
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I think any beef that is lean and doesn't have a lot of fat in it can be dry. Our steaks are excellent, but tend to be dry because there is very little marbling of fat in them. We have to marinate them for a long time and be careful not to overcook them.
Reminds me I need to call our rancher buddy and see when the next crop of calves will be ready. I'm out of ground beef and only have about two roasts and a few t-bones left.
Buying a whole cow directly from a rancher is also cheaper, in the long run. We pay by the pound, so our cost varies depending on the size of the cow, but we're paying the same price for ribeyes as we are for ground beef. And it's a whole lot better quality and healthier meat.
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I've never tried the jerky. The bison sausage is kind of neat. Here is the place (in Wisconsin) my buffalo meat came from. You can see the options and prices, if you were interested.
My husband makes really good beef jerky, and uses beef that is as fat free as possible. We have a load in the freezer right now. So I imagine bison would be perfect for jerky.
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I've always wanted to try making jerky. Do you need a dehydrator, or can you use an oven that can go on a low temperature?
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B-HAX, first of all, thanks for this radical honesty. Second: I don't know what would make you happy (and HWP), but if you try enough different things, something might work! Best of luck.
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He has the same reason: He just can't help thinking whatever it is he is obsessing about. ![[Big Grin]](biggrin.gif)
