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I didn't say that, you idiot. I was sympathizing. That seems to be something you're not terribly good at.
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I know Yozhik in real life. I guess it's time to reveal my secret identity as her husband. I can tell you that she is very broken up about this. I thank you for your supportive comments. I've suggested that she might feel better if she shared her feelings with a group of people who care about her. Unfortunately, she can't think of anybody. Since she won't ask for support, I'll have to do it for her.
I can't post on the Nauvoo board since I'm not Mormon. She tells me that she posted an emoticon waving bye from there. I know they care about her too, and I'm hoping someone here reads this and encourages her to post there too.
Depression sucks--about that I am not skeptical. -Skeptic
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I'm really sorry this has happened and that it is getting you down -- completely understandable of course. I've been out of work a couple of times and I got to the point where I would've taken ANYTHING just to feel like I was being useful...contributing, etc.
All I can tell you is that you are NOT your job. It is NOT the measure of your value as a human being. If you have some financial breathing room, this might be a good time to explore options, start a new career, or even change your focus entirely. (Well, not entirely...stick with skeptic!!!)
If finances are an issue, I can actually recommend temping. I had a ball with some of my temp jobs and it really was a way for many people to find a steady job and try out an environment before committing to it.
Most importantly, do try to keep a positive outlook. Even though it's obviously related to the situation, depression can be insidious. If you need help or someone to talk to, there are lots of people who'll listen, but don't forget that a trained counselor might be a good idea as well.
I have a friend who was depressed and stuck in a crummy job. She started seeing a counselor. He helped her sort out her priorities and she ended up changing from a career in banking to becoming a veterinarian. Quite happy and successful. It was what she'd always wanted but lacked the self-reliance to give it a try.
Just an example, of course.
Anyway, don't give in to despair. It's okay to feel depressed for a little while (some theories even suggest that mild depression is an adaptive trait), but if it goes on for too long or gets too deep, seek help.
In the meantime, there are lots of us pulling for you. Many of us have "been there, done that." It sucks, but you will survive.
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But before you start feeling too sympathetic for me, I'd better let you know that the firing was MY OWN DAMN FAULT. When you show up late for work, people tend to fire you.
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Yozhik, if you were unhappy with the job, I can understand how hard it must have been to be there on time.
I have that problem often -- and at a job where being 5 minutes late MATTERS. I have had to have a co-worker cover for me far too many times the last couple months.
*hug* I hope you find something that is a better fit for you quickly.
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Hey, Yozhik, this is TheOne from Nauvoo. Sorry to hear about the loss of your job. I show up late for work all the time but mostly because I hate it! But, darn it, they won't fire me!
We're thinking of you at Nauvoo. I hope your job hunt is short and successful. I hate job hunting but it is a necessary evil when you want or need a new one.
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I'm HOPING to get fired from my job for being late... Kidding... Good luck to you. I'm working on getting a new, good permanant job myself. Difficult >.<
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There is now more good news. The week after losing my old job (I was a librarian), I had two interviews. The week after that, I was offered a job. I started two weeks after that, and have been at the new place for two weeks.
I really like it. It is nothing like my old job, which had horrible twisted workplace politics and the Control Freak Boss from Hell. Here I feel like my department head is actually interested in my professional growth and thinks my ideas are worthwhile. Plus I get a LOT more patron interaction, which is the fun part!
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quote: Here I feel like my department head is actually interested in my professional growth and thinks my ideas are worthwhile.
This is a great feeling. (Also: Congratulations!) My last job was for a massive, "all policies are decided at corporate and we don't care what YOU think" megacorporation (Hint: The CEO just got 25 years in prison). My new job is much nicer, for a company big enough to be stable but small enough to listen to input and take it seriously. My current boss is awesome and loves hearing my ideas. I think you'll find this is one of the most rewarding parts of your new job. (Well, that and the paycheck!)
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