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...or maybe it's just a funeral question -- since I'm (sort of) outside my native South.
A dear (LDS) friend just lost his wife. They'll have funeral, then graveside, then a lunch. What, if anything, should I bring? Food?
I'll assume that "Those who would like to make memorial contributions in Marie’s honor may wish to donate to..." means "No flowers."
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If you want to know about southern Catholic funerals, I can help.
Otherwise, I'm really sorry to hear about your friend's loss (and yours, of course). Wish I could help out more.
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quote:I'll assume that "Those who would like to make memorial contributions in Marie’s honor may wish to donate to..." means "No flowers."
I don't think it means that at all. I don't think there would be anything wrong with bringing (or sending) flowers, but by no means is it expected.
Also, you don't need to worry about bringing food. Generally (this has been the case of every single LDS funeral I've ever attended) the local ward/congregation takes care of the food.
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I think memorial contributions are a wonderful thing, especially when the family has specifically requested them.
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One advantage to memorial donations over flowers is that the receiving charity will usually send a card to the family indicating that they have received a donation in their memory from you. It's a more permanent reminder of your support than a bouquet or grave decoration that will wilt and decay.
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Not LDS, but in my experience food at a funeral lunch is always taken care of, either by the local congregation or catered.
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It might be nice to send food to your friend a bit later - perhaps after a week, week and a half. Sometimes it's hard to take care of the little things when you lose someone, and having people bring food is always nice. I like the idea of making a contribution too - it's a wonderful way to help others in memory of someone who is lost.
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I remember the flowers when my mother died. We had to give them away to people because the house was filled. That whole time is mostly a haze and I can't recall much, but I remember the flowers.
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quote:If somebody brought a hearty beef stew to my funeral I'd have to say I'd be quite happy.
I think it would make me happier if someone brought me a hearty beef stew before while I was still alive rather than at my funeral.
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No green jello or funeral potatoes, but people from all over the country, a cameraman there so you could record your memories of the deceased, and a quilt somebody made to commemorate her life. Marie, R.I.P.
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