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Actually, I checked Wikipedia and it lists both Penes and Penises. I prefer the "penes" plural because it sounds cooler, but then I would have seemed like I was correcting the plural of penis rather than the lesser/fewer issue. Plus my spelling checker lights up "Penes" as a misspelling, but not "Penises."
I was going to make a reference to Davidson's law in my post, but decided to let someone else find it.
quote:Originally posted by BlackBlade: I know exactly what you mean. But it's a marvelous gift to have been wronged and to still give the wrongdoer the opportunity to right it. I'm very glad you have taken this approach.
Well... she didn't wrong us. And I can't really know what her husband's issues are. Maybe his parents divorced when his mom came out and he has a hard time because of that. Not that I know anything about him (or his mom or his parents in general), but that kind of thing is always possible. Beyond that, the average Orthodox Jew really does think -- not based on any personal learning of the material, nor based on having asked a rabbi, but merely based on a kind of "everyone knows" -- that gay/lesbian = icky/wrong. This guy is probably just operating on the basis of what he considers to be "common knowledge". I'm not angry at him. Just hurt. Again.
I meant that in reference to the husband not the wife, but you seem have gotten that. Try to minimize the hurt feelings, I'm sure it was nothing personal on his part, meaning if two other women of similar circumstances had invited him over he would have objected all the same. Again I'm glad you are taking the moral high ground rather then cutting off what could still evolve into a friendship with both husband and wife.
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quote:Originally posted by Javert Hugo: Hmm...I don't buy it.
I'm a heterosexual female, and I completely buy it.
Have I ever made out with another woman? No. Do I see the appeal? Yes. Do I see the appeal it might have for a man? Yes.
That's kind of the crux of it. The idea that men are the "standard" for sexuality is the problem, imo, in this breakdown of our sexuality.
When we say women are sexually "flexible," why do we not say that men are "inflexible," because that is far more true. Men really do prefer to go straight off in one direction or another, and don't trust those who claim to be bisexual often times, assuming they are "gay with a publicist."
From what I've learned in basic psych courses and from loveline (where they often talked about active scans of the brain in various states of arousal), men view the sexuality of other men as threatening. It is not so much that women find each other attractive because women are more inherently attractive, but because women are naturally more receptive to sexuality and less threatened by it. It would stand to reason that women would not be sexually threatened by other women in the same way as men are by other men, because of the roles of the sexes that are common among all mammals.
So guys, I think it's we who are uptight. Though I have no reason to believe that nature did not intend such a state- I prefer a woman who is at least interested in sex, and I think seeing someone (or two someones) being sexually evocative is appealing. I tend to believe I was made that way.
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quote:Originally posted by The Pixiest: Actually, I checked Wikipedia and it lists both Penes and Penises. I prefer the "penes" plural because it sounds cooler, but then I would have seemed like I was correcting the plural of penis rather than the lesser/fewer issue. Plus my spelling checker lights up "Penes" as a misspelling, but not "Penises."
I was going to make a reference to Davidson's law in my post, but decided to let someone else find it.
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That's just it - there's nothing here but various anecdotes and some made up science to justify them.
I counter them with my own anecdotes which certainly do not match what has been expressed in the thread, and no one is the wiser either.
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