quote:Originally posted by Stone_Wolf_: afr is spot on, although I wonder if I will feel that way with my children when it comes to religion, as I don't have one. I imagine if they grew up to be staunch religious people it would hurt me deeply as I will be encouraging them to seek their own answers, find their own truths and not to accept any one belief as the only truth.
I would think that any parent who has invested time and care in the upbringing of their kids would be hurt and disappointed if their kids chose a path that seemed to leave behind what they had been taught. That's certainly not limited to staunchly religious homes or religious teaching period. Like it or not, we are practically all of us busy directing how we hope our kids will conduct their lives.
I wanted to echo Porter, though: by no means is my love for my kids dependent on such choices--and that explains the hopes I will always have for them.
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quote:Does there come a point when your parents no longer think your religious or political views are 'just a phase' that you're going to grow out of?
What's the difference between this and you expecting/hoping that your mother will eventually get over wanting you to accept Jesus?
Look at the situation from her point. She believes that if you don't eventually accept Jesus, you will suffer eternal torment. She's your Mom so I presume that if she believes that you will suffer eternal torment it would cause her a great deal of despair. Her options are either despair, continue believing/hoping you will ultimately accept Jesus, stop believing that you must accept Jesus to avoid eternal condemnation, or cease to care about whether you suffer.
Unless you are hoping your Mom will eventually stop caring about you or that she will sink into a state of permanent dispair, you question is no different from asking whether your Mother's belief in the necessity of accepting Jesus is just a phase she will eventually out grow.
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quote:Originally posted by The Rabbit: What's the difference between this and you expecting/hoping that your mother will eventually get over wanting you to accept Jesus?
I think the difference is the 'just a phase' mentality.
I'm not objecting, necessarily, to her desire to have me re-convert to Catholicism. I'm objecting to the mindset that I'm still a child following a fad, and that I haven't given my position much thought, and will 'go back to normal' once I do.
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