I know realistically there will be more "no"s than "yes"s. I say at this second that I'm prepared. Yet I know that the reality is that it might wear on me.

It happens. Everyone gets rejections. One author I know says that most of her stories, even ones that have gone on to win Hugos (or was it Nebulas? I forget) bounce around four or five times before they get a publisher. I read somewhere else that a rejection-acceptance ratio of 12:1 is fairly normal.

So much of it is the editor's personal taste and inventory and has nothing to do with you at all; it's not worth getting filled with despair about.

One thing to think about: if you were the editor of a magazine, which of the stories you read would you publish? I bet you read a lot of stories, some of which are very well-written, that you wouldn't publish yourself, just because they're not quite to your taste.

Always have a second story or novel in hand while the first is looking for a home. Thus, when the inevitable rejections roll in, you don't feel that it's your one and only child being killed. There's another one.

I understand that most publishers don't want you sending your work to multiple places at one. (The same piece to multiple sources.) How long before I move on to the next name? 2 months? More?

As has been discussed in a previous thread, one of the reasons why so many new people come and go is the fact that it's also very difficult to have your story critiqued in public. For a very novice writer, it's probably harder to suffer through a public critique than to get a semi-annonymous rejection letter.

But in either case, the best way to cope is to cultivate a sense of professional detatchment. Don't take it personally when you get rejected.

The submission guidelines will also (usually) tell you their typical response time. Many will tell you at what point you should ping them to see if they lost your story or something.

But it does get wearisome.

Also, I've only gotten one rejection so far that accused me of sending in the story to spy on the editor.

What did get me was sending a book (Non-fiction) to agents. It's a lot of work to send in a proposal, and it's a lot of work to identify relevant agents, and I've let it slip.

The process of submitting a story to a publication leaves little room for ego. When an editor rejects your story, it's not personal. It either didn't meet the publication's needs or guidelines at that time, or it wasn't written well enough to satisfy a particular editor (see below for more possibilities). In the former case, resubmit elsewhere, being careful to ensure you meet the guidelines; in the latter case -- if you are lucky enough to get a personalized response -- consider rethinking your approach to the story. In both cases, don't let your ego get in the way -- it is simply business.

Also, ensure your manuscripts, queries, and cover letters are in the proper format. Any deviation from the "norm" will automatically garner a rejection before they even look at your story. Don't try clever tricks or use colored paper or anything silly. Be courteous, professional, and pay attention to detail. The business of publication is indeed a business, and proper business etiquette should be adhered to all times. Editors will sincerely appreciate your attempt at taking their business seriously.

Ego: For aspiring writers, ego should be kept in a strongbox without a key. If a writer wants his/her ego stroked, they should consider doing something altogether different that will allow for this. Thick calloused skin will come easily enough through the critiquing process we employ here on this site. Of course, a critique is essentially an opinion, and all opinions can be ignored fully -- if you choose to do so -- at your own peril, naturally.