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Or at leastone who, upon being asked what her hobbies are, lists video games...actually, I think that was the first thing she mentioned. I'm not getting my hopes up or anything, but a gorgeous girl who likes video games, reading, is a (get this) Mechanical Engineering major, and can dance is going to go pretty high on my list...really fast.
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I have a friend who has the same, ah, issues with dating. I have advised him that he needs to know and love himself before he starts looking for someone else to love, and that not every girl he dates will be the love of his life. I don't know whether that advice pertains to you, but you might want to think about it.
I don't mean to hurt your feelings or anything. I told my friend that because I love him like a brother, and want the best for him.
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quote: Have you ever dated a woman that you didn't immediately fall in love with?
Yes. I'm not in love. I just think it's really cool that I've met a girl who's interested in a lot of the things I am. There aren't many gaming girls out here.
quote: What about the last girl you started a thread about? The one going home for the summer but would be back in the fall?
I have her email. I've been trying to keep in touch. She hasn't emailed me back yet.
quote: I have a friend who has the same, ah, issues with dating. I have advised him that he needs to know and love himself before he starts looking for someone else to love, and that not every girl he dates will be the love of his life. I don't know whether that advice pertains to you, but you might want to think about it.
I know. I'm learning that now. I don't expect much out of this. In fact, I'll probably never even see her again. The real triumph is the fact that I was able to introduce myself to a complete stranger and have a 30 minute conversation with her without feeling like a dork. Sorry if my first post sounded like I'm a love-sick puppy (Even though I am). To be honest, I've realized (since getting "stoked" about the second date with the one girl) that I need to get to know people and have friends before I can even start thinking about having a girlfriend. If things develop, great. If not, I have friends. Win-win situation. No really. Something just clicked on in my head about a month ago and I'm starting to realize the fact that there are actually a lot of girls who like me, and I'm just learning how to deal with that now
edit: Clarification. Not a lot of girls here interested in gaming AND dancing.
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Boris, there are geek girls in the world, plenty of them. If you're a geek boy, you just need to find yourself a geek girl. When you're ready, that is.
I'm a geek princess married to a geek prince.
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Yah, I hear you on that score. I had to move halfway around the world to get mine. I hope yours is easier to find.
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I DO know a girl gamer in Idaho (not Rexburg), but she's taken Where is the nearest big convention center? Gaming conventions are fun, whether or not you are looking to hook up with someone
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quote:The real triumph is the fact that I was able to introduce myself to a complete stranger and have a 30 minute conversation with her without feeling like a dork.
Well done! Now you know that there was nothing to be afraid of.
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Alaska is another place lacking in geek girls, by the way. I've known a handful, but they always get snatched up by other geek guys before I meet them.
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I figured it had to do with how Freaking Huge Alaska is and the comparison of the population being dwarfed by the size of the state.
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Maybe I should have included a in there. I meant it to sound menacing, but only joke-menacing.
At any rate, while our population density is very low thanks to our enormous land area, keep in mind I live in Anchorage. It has over 300,000 people, which for me, is too many.
And yet, not one of those 300,000 is an attractive, interesting, single female. Plenty of our females have any two of those qualities, but none seem to have all three.
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You know, I have a friend who always refers to women as females. I don't know why, but for some reason it always irked me -- not that I ever mentioned it. Your post made me think of it, Verily.
Anyway, the population of Nunavut is a mere 0.014 people per square kilometer. Which I always found kind of funny. Alaska's packed in comparison! Heck, the population of their capital, Iqaluit, is a paltry 6000.
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quote:You know, I have a friend who always refers to women as females. I don't know why, but for some reason it always irked me -- not that I ever mentioned it. Your post made me think of it, Verily.
It keeps me from saying "girls". Most women hate that nowadays.
Why not just say "women" every time? I don't know. A false sense of variety, maybe.
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quote:In a city of 300,000, I'm willing to bet that this is in fact not true. The trick is meeting them.
Keep in mind where the city is. Women are outnumbered here. Any woman who is attractive and interesting is not going to be single for long. There are always plenty of men to go around, so women pretty much get to take their pick here. Which means that by the time I meet them, they've long since claimed another man for themselves.
quote:Do they? Uh-oh. I use "girls" preferentially.
So do I. I don't mean it to be degrading--and I think a lot of them think it is degrading. I just like the sound of the word. But I can understand the objection. At my age, if someone kept referring to me as a "boy", I'd start to get irritated. But at least we have the word "guy" to fall back on.
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I'm fine with girls, but I don't like being called a lady. I could give you reasons and pretend it's rational and all that, but really, I wouldn't even be kidding myself.
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Yes, I know, Alaska and all of that, but your attitude is self-defeating! In my experience there are awesome women everywhere. Even when I was living in the middle of nowhere in rural Newfoundland I knew a few. I wasn't interested in dating at that stage, but there were available women around.
If there was hope for me then, there is hope for you now.
And aren't we the same age? 24. Yeah. The situation where I live now is similar -- 80,000 people, industrial town -- but there are women around. They exist. Some of them are probably even awesome. I'm not looking, but I bet they're there.
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As a 24 year old female, I actually don't like "woman." as in, "you are a beautiful woman." or "I took this woman on a date last weekend" it's too... formal sounding. Boyfriend calls me his girlie, which is fine by me.
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I HATE "woman." I'd prefer the awful "chick" to that word. Then again, I barely qualify as "woman," but people seem to want to use it anyway. It sounds like something people would say just to be politically correct or when trying to be flattering... but I think it just comes off as, well, creepy.
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And I'm in a real bind. I hate the word womyn - I just start thinking of butchy lesbian man-haters, not that there's anything wrong with that. But I don't like being called a girl, a lady, or a woman, either. And no, it's not rational, and yes, I fully admit that. So what's left? Female.