quote: In both cases, the middle ground is probably the best way to go. If someone really DOES look fat in a given dress, you aren't doing her any favors by telling her it's flattering; by the same token, if you really don't want to see someone again, you aren't helping by implying that you'd like to give it a shot another weekend.
Tom, I agree with some of what you said, but far from all. Timing matters! If asked about a dress before it has been purchased, honesty (but not cruelty) is important. Something like, "I don't think that's a good look for you." But if someone is out wearing the dress, that would be a very hurtful thing to say. Not that you should feel the need to lie. So the cut's awful? Perhaps it's a flattering color. Rather than, "I love your dress!" when you don't, try, "That dress is such a lovely shade of blue." IF it is a close friend, later, PRIVATELY telling her you much prefer the pink suit she wore the other time to the new blue dress -- which is a lovely color, but maybe not the most flattering style -- can be helpful.
Besides, even if you think it makes her look like a sausage, who made you (or me) the arbiter of fashion?
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