Even if there's nothing romantic involved, even if it's your best friend of the opposite sex, there is something calming and peaceful about a long embrace like that. Always makes me less lonely when I'm in a "dry spell"--between relationships.
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I went to sadies with a girl other than the one from Tuck. Im not sure how I felt inside, but I persona'd a happy lively attitude. Im not sure if I was happy, depressed, envious, prideful or what.
Anger was there, but I tried to subside it for the girls sake. Afterall, why should I be mad at her or around her. She didn't do anything.
quote:You can dance to hip-hop and house music when you listen to punk and emo
Of course you can! I'll bust a move on the dance floor as easily as the next guy, especially if they're playing house... even though rock 'n roll is my bread and butter.
Good thing you learned this lesson in high school; I didn't learn it till I was going into third year university.
quote:That's why you find girls who are equally avoidant of commitment.
See, that opens up a whole other can of worms. I did the super-casual one-time thing once, and learned that that isn't really for me either, because the intimacy just isn't there. When I was cuddling/making out/whatevering with the last (and first) girl I fell head over heels for, every little touch and caress was... *shivers* mmmmm. Sensual.
Can't get that from casual things.
What I figure I'll do is become a 2-3 date cutoff kinda guy so as to avoid falling for anyone. That way I can still meet women and learn about them and what makes them tick without the bad mojo of the one-time casual thing and without shooting myself in the foot by falling for someone.
hip hop and drum and bass aren't the things i listen to the most, but they are the thinks i dance to the best! heh. if it works, i'll groove my arse off to anything.
ditto on the intimacy thing. i don't like the casual makeout. i am an intense person, i need intense, and if it isn't intense chances are i will do everything in my power to make it so. unfortunately this means falling for someone i wouldn't have ever fallen for in my right mind, and also not really enjoying anything i'm doing if i haven't fallen. my ex boyfriend (still good friend) and i were discussing group sex the other day (i am sooooooo sorry to derail this way, but i realy am going to make a point) and i was saying that i really just didn't think i could be into it because sex and other serious displays of physical affection are just so emotional for me. i have to be emotionally tied to really get into it, i WANT to be emotional, and it MAKES me emotional. and i am selfish in that area. i want to focus all on one person and have them focus on just me. i would rather have really really intense sex with one person than drunken wild sex with four other people.
so i guess i am kinda where twinky's at, sort of avoiding the serious, but things get dramatic no matter what i try. and i have had a hard time even feeling like dating because aforementioned ex boyfriend and i still have strings connecting us in the chest area; a little to the left. and perhaps a litle lower, too. heh. *sigh*
...as to the ties with the ex, I still have them as well, but I figure that I wouldn't be doing myself any favours by sitting around and pining or missing her. I may not be over her, but I do know that there are plenty of good matches out there for me whenever I'm ready to let someone else in.
Nothing gets you over the ex one like the next one
(...nothing gets you over someone like getting under someone else )
I dunno, I've been able to find enough meaningful contact through casual making out and such. But they're usually more than one-time things with me. Like, a friend (or two..or three..) who lives far away that I can't see all the time...or someone else who wants closeness but is too squicked by relationships...usually due to experiences similar to mine...but who doesn't want to lose that sort of tactile connection that can be so reassuring.
It doesn't work for a lot of people..but I've found that for many people I've met, if you openly discuss things like that it can work pretty well.
Besides, it helps me forget how much I miss other people.
The trouble is that since I'm moving every four months, I can't really keep coming back to the same person unless I meet someone at school. For example, if I meet someone this term, I'll probably never see them again after Christmas because I don't plan to come back to this town.
...that's precisely why, when I met a bright, cute, witty girl who is down in the "radical left-wing anarchist" (at least according to Geoff's political test ) camp with me a couple of weeks ago, I made a graceful exit before she could give me her number.