Are there really people who consider a romance novel more intellectual than a graphic novel?
I guess it's possible if they haven't looked at either one.
If they have more than a knee-jerk disgust toward all forms of comics, they might be thinking that a book with no pictures forces you to use your imagination and exercise your brain more than a book with pictures.
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quote:Originally posted by JennaDean: As for women who read graphic novels - well, I only know of one. And if there are any men who read romance novels ... I have no words for that.
You need to get out more. I know plenty of both.
Oh, I definitely need to get out more.
(Not to say that those people aren't out there ... just that I don't know them, so I never get the chance to look down my nose at them. )
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Puppy: While being an avid gamer is not a complete deal breaker, it hasn't been my experience that "some" of the gamers I have dated were difficult to be around because of social skills. It is well over 90%. While the root of the objection is social ineptness, I have found, in my experience, that the single best indicator of whether or not I am going to have to be "understanding" when they don't have basic social manners is whether or not they love video games.
Since it is not really the games and instead what the games have almost universally indicated for me, there is room for me to be wrong. However, it is easier to tell in a first or second conversation if someone loves video games than whether or not they are socially inept. General nervousness can be put down to meeting someone new - what I want to know is if they are still going to be nervous and rude after four months. People rarely pronounce that they are socially awkward, but if they pronounce that they love video games and the more story and skill involved the better, that's a pretty good signal of it.
All "in my experience", of course.
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Any other near-complete deal-breakers you've got? What about someone who's fat because they don't exercise?
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Well, I don't like snide and sarcastic, either. It all comes from me not liking insecure, and adults who are snide and sarcastic on a regular basis tend to be, in my experience.
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I say this with all seriousness. It would be a complete deal-breaker for me if a potential significant other couldn't deal with social "ineptness" in another person.
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That's fine. That makes perfect sense. And what someone wants in a romantic partner is not up for debate.
I don't think the quotation marks are necessary. Rather, I don't know what they mean. Do you not believe that ineptness exists?
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quote:Originally posted by Omega M.: Any other near-complete deal-breakers you've got? What about someone who's fat because they don't exercise?
You know, I like it when people (men and women alike) are comfortable with how they are, or want to be more fit and are working towards that. What I have problems with are those who don't like how they are but don't do anything about it except whine. That's not a deal-breaker, it's just a bit annoying, and occasionally more than a bit...
Thinking about deal-breakers, the biggest ones would be someone who's smoking, drinking a lot or doing drugs. (Someone devoutly religious comes close, especially for the long term, but I can't say it's an absolute deal-breaker.) Anyway, I tend to avoid "wanting" to fall in love with such people because I learned in the past that I cannot adequately handle those situations, and frankly I don't want to. The rest really depends on the interaction with that other person.
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The quotation marks are probably because I'm not sure I know what ineptness is supposed to mean in this thread.
Bias alert: my interconnected tribes are... gamers, Scrabble tournament players, writers, and families of mentally ill people. I am making a big effort not to feel something like defensive :-). My WORLD is socially different.
I do get what you're saying. If someone said "I only date people with one blue and one brown eye", I would just think they had very specific needs in a partner (and probably give them the phone number of a genetic counselor). But I guess I'm saying that it gives me a grrr feeling.
But! I was married for 19 years to someone who had fundamentally different social needs than I do, and I would never advise such a thing.
So I just grrr a little. I think I'm both defensive and validating at the same time. How's that?
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I think that is very understandable and I'm not offended.
I am just answering the initial question, and I've put all the disclaimers on it: This is only my experience - I am not declaring it to be a universal truth.
All I can say is that the experiences I have had have led me to my current opinion.
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quote:Originally posted by Nighthawk: I usually have to wrench the remote out of my wife's hands to play Fallout 3 or Left 4 Dead.
I wish she'd go and read a romance novel so I can play! Anyone have any recommendations I can give her?
Gag her and throw her into the lake?
That or buy a 40" LCD 1080pi HD TV/Monitor for 600$ at best buy.
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