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Annie, the scary thing is that the one my mom has (don't remember which, but it's different than what I have) tended to be even MORE dire!
For the record, I don't think mack has a brain tumor (or other life-threatening nasty) -- and I agree that the surgery would mess up her pretty hair, which would be an awful shame -- but I do think that pain this bad deserves at least a call to the doctor.
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Jamie, as soon as you get back, call doctor if you haven't already. Otherwise, I'll... uh... say nasty things under my breath about the weather... you have been warned.
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I'm not even sure. I tried lactose-free ice cream, and that was WORSE than regular ice cream!
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Did you know brain-freezes can cure headaches that are just getting started? I've used this technique to derail oncoming headaches.
Just give yourself a brain freeze, and when it goes away, the headache often recedes. I have anecdotal evidence on one subject (me) only, but you get a Slurpee or ice cream to test it out, so what the hey?
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Are you drinking enough water? Maybe your big ol' brain needs oxygen. (Okay, how weird is it that I almost spelled 'oxygen' as 'oksygen'?)
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mackillian, I'm pretty sure your project for this life is to learn how to be your own mommy. I'm serious. In fact, I'm as certain that this is your aporia as I am of anything else I know.
Think about it: many people around you give you advice, but it is never as useful as that which you come up with yourself. You've found your own way to survive a brutal childhood fairly intact, certainly better than most have done with much less struggle.
And though you continue to ask for advice and comforting from others, in the end it is your own small, still inner voice that you must listen to. Right? We are your friends, your sisters and brothers, but despite how passionately we may try, we really can't direct your life for you. In fact, you are too strong to let us.
mack, meet mommy. Mommy, meet mack.
(As fot the rest of us, well, we'll just continue to love you to pieces. )
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OK, Mac, I AM the mommy and you do need to go to the doctor. The symptoms have gone on way too long. You need to see a doctor to make sure it isn't anything serious. Are you just being stubborn or do you not have medical insurance?
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Actually, UTAH, mack has consulted with CT, one of our wonderful Hatrack Doctors. Additionally, the headache (as of Friday, at least, when I last spoke to mack) was subsiding.
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...and it's back with a vengeance. So is the exhaustion. Night before last I slept 9 hours, then took an hour and a half nap (somewhere between 1 and 2 hours). Mind you, I woke up at 1pm and took the nap 4:30-6ish. I was asleep in bed by 2am last night with a murderous headache. I awoke by my alarm at 7:30 with same headache. Shut off alarm, took 20mg bextra, and got back into bed. God will understand.
I slept until 1:30 pm. The headache, at least, is mostly gone.
I concede. Something is wrong. I am calling the doctor tomorrow. This isn't right.
The BEST part is that I'm going up to see my father and sister this afternoon. >_<
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rivka, I haven't talked to mackillian in enough depth to thoroughly evaluate her as a physician regarding her current concerns. My sense, though, is that if she believes it is good to see or call her physician, then this is exactly what she should do. I think her listening to that still inner voice which directs her is a good thing.
I am, moreover, pretty sure that she will make herself the best mommy she could ever have. (But that's a friend-guess, not a physician-guess, and I'm willing to be proven wrong. ) Sometimes I think advice can be counter-productive, as sometimes we are less likely to do the obvious thing in part because we've been told to do it -- even if we asked to be told. I've certainly seen this pattern in myself before.
In that light, I'm reckoning that my job as a friend (mine, not necessarily anyone else's) is to support Jamie in her choices and encourage her to be her own mommy. Her own choices for herself have gotten her through some outrageously difficult times, and I can't remember when I've ever given advice to her which she isn't strong and centered enough to make up her own mind about, anyway. It seems (to me) that her asking for advice might be her own way of figuring out what she really believes she ought to do, regardless.
That's cool. She's the expert on mack. She's also proven herself to be one heck of a survivor.
So, I'm writing this as a bit of a disclaimer (me being neither mack's physician nor mother, specifically), and as a wild wail of support for the mighty mack. (And mack, though I wrote this to rivka, of course I wrote it for you, too. I believe in you, sugar. *hug)
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I apologize for implying that you were acting as mack's physician, CT. Of course that wouldn't be possible from so far away, and I should have been more careful about my phrasing.
quote: Sometimes I think advice can be counter-productive, as sometimes we are less likely to do the obvious thing in part because we've been told to do it -- even if we asked to be told.
I think the word you were looking for (or carefully skirting, as the case may be ) is "stubborn."
quote: Her own choices for herself have gotten her through some outrageously difficult times, and I can't remember when I've ever given advice to her which she isn't strong and centered enough to make up her own mind about, anyway. It seems (to me) that her asking for advice might be her own way of figuring out what she really believes she ought to do, regardless.
That's cool. She's the expert on mack. She's also proven herself to be one heck of a survivor.
(Stubborn? You wanna see stubborn? *laughing Takes one to know one, definitely. I'm not a Taurus for nothin'.)
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