I love to learn people's real names, but I can't always remember them.
I like to use people's real names on Hatrack also. I know I'm not the only one who does this, and I think it's cool when people know me well enough to know my real name.
But I don't know if everyone feels this way, or if it would be revealing too much information to call people by their real names here if they have not made those names obvious online.
So what are the ethics of calling people Connie, Amy, Liza (sp?), Mike, etc?
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I've used my real name here before, as have several of my family members. I'm fine with you using it if you wish. And you spelled it correctly.
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Actually, this is a topic that Icarus and I have been debating a lot recently. My thought is that people pick their user names because they really like them. Often it is quirky or cute or has something specific to do with some aspect of the personality that the individual really likes. In my case, I'm not fond of my real name. I feel it is used too frequently. As one character in the novel "Tuck Everlasting" put it, it gets called so much that it's just worn out. And a lot of people share my first name. I much prefer a stronger sounding name like Cor. It is the name of one of my characters and she has characteristics that I would like to possess more of.
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Personally, I like calling people by their real names because it makes me feel closer to them. Knowing something personal like that lends a sense of intimacy.
Edit: Of course, if they prefer not to be called by their real names, I find that knowing that information has much the same effect.
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I've grown to love my name, but I'm willing to bet that hardly any of you can pronounce it. Of course, almost none of my real life friends can pronounce it either, so it's not like that matters. I answer to any reasonable approximation. Or even to "Hey, stupid!" sometimes.
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What are we betting? I'll have a chance to prove it in about two weeks. How many tries do I get?
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Take all the fun out of it. Besides, wouldn't you say it for anyone first? Or you'd just make them try to say it from the spelling? That would hardly be fair.
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I might let them hear it once or twice. I suppose if you do manage to correctly pronounce it we can work something out. Positive reinforcement, right?
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Dude, whatever. I can't even count how many variations on Sakasegawa I've heard. Heck, one of the companies that regularly sends me mail spells it "Jtwros."
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Kat, I like both. I like Joe because, as Mike suggested, it lends a certain (nonromantic) intimacy: I feel known. I like Icky because it strikes me as affectionate, and it makes me feel liked. I'm sure saxy would agree. I also like the strangeness of having such a nickname as Icky. Sometimes people see it and wonder if it's an insult--knowing that it's not, I think it's kind of cool. Then again, as Cor noted, I wouldn't have picked Icarus as an s/n if I didn't like it, so that's okay too--and I wouldn't want to encourage people to fake an intimacy or affection that they don't genuinely feel with me.
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Nobody who's not latino pronounces my last name correctly. Cor comes closer than just about anyone. I have gotten into the habit of pronouncing it incorrectly when people ask me to pronounce it--I anglicize it because otherwise nobody could spell it or pronounce it at all.
I don't think my name is at all hard to spell. Only seven letters and it's spelled exactly like it sounds, but it's still misspelled more often than not.
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quote:Dude, whatever. I can't even count how many variations on Sakasegawa I've heard. Heck, one of the companies that regularly sends me mail spells it "Jtwros."
One of my friends is named Daren, but the phone company liked to call him Darne. His last name is Toppin, but they thought it was Coppion.
We still call him Darne Coppion for laughs.
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quote:I have gotten into the habit of pronouncing it incorrectly when people ask me to pronounce it--I anglicize it because otherwise nobody could spell it or pronounce it at all.
That's what I do, too, only I do it with my first name.
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I figured out later that the word on the post it in our room (don't ask - I have no idea) was your last name when I saw the program for the wedding. Before, I spent a considerable amount of time trying to remember if it was Latin infinitive form of "anger."
I'll stick with Icky, then, if that's okay. It's very funny.
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A while ago I realized I'd actually internalized the anglicized version of my name and it was how I thought of myself. That was a bit upsetting. I've been working on changing it but I'm not quite there yet.
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Hmm . . . I can do this, Liza, but it will seem creepy to my kids if I start randomly speaking into a microphone right now. Maybe later on today.
It was only two or three years ago that I went back to anglicizing my last name (even when people specifically ask how the name is pronounced, because I interpret the question as being how they should pronounce it), but now it's only anglicized when talking to Americans. I no longer anglicize it in my own mind.
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Personally, I don't think of it as mispronunciation when people Anglicize my last name. It's when people start adding and subtracting letters that gets me.
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twinky, I think i might be able to say your name, I used to ride an arabian horse with the same name. But i won't garuntee it.
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Sorry, Icky. I swear I only hit post once, and your funny wasn't there to wreck yet when I went back in to edit.
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There were going to be dinosaurs on the cake. If I recall, there is a picture of them dolled up for the wedding among CaySedai's pictures (on her blog, in fact, IIANM). However, as I recall, they were too big to actually fit there, so they went with poseable people and just had the dinosaurs somewhere else.
Back when I used to go to the Indian casino a lot, a lot of little old ladies had little charms like that in front of them while they played, for good luck. Posts: 13680 | Registered: Mar 2002
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Smokey was hangin' at Mike & Patty's house, who are friends of the happy couple who happen to actually live in Ames. Lava Lamp I think stayed home. Posts: 7954 | Registered: Mar 2004
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My sons asked me the significance of the use of dinosaurs as the centerpiece on the bride/groom table. I wasn't sure. Thought maybe it had something to do with age.......
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does anyone have a picture of the actual cake with the posable people on it? I would love to see that.
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No -I never really saw it with the posable couple. Mainly because as Hatrackers, we waited around at the church quite awhile to get the group photo - so were like the last ones to show up at the reception and missed some of the action there. (I'm assuming they did the cake cutting, etc. before we got there? At least I never saw it)
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Nope, the cake cutting was after dinner. mack took pics, so I'm sure we'll see them when she gets that far. Posts: 7954 | Registered: Mar 2004
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Take all the fun out of it. Besides, wouldn't you say it for anyone first? Or you'd just make them try to say it from the spelling? That would hardly be fair.
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