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Belle, what you said really touched me. I'm going to tell Nathan when he calls later today, and I think he'll feel the same way. Posts: 14745 | Registered: Dec 1999
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This is generally where the obligatory bit of advice would come, but I wouldn't be saying anything you don't already know, and I recall getting a little irritated with all the advice just prior to my wedding. So I'll just say congratulations again and wish you both happiness and good fortune. Posts: 4534 | Registered: Jan 2003
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YAY!!! I am SO HAPPY for you both! I know you will be fine. I am glad that people are being supportive. I know you both have carefully and prayerfully agonized over the decisions you have made. I am glad it is working out for you.
Now, about driving to NH...what, are you nuts!???!
No, really...I have driven cross country several times in the winter. It just depends on the weather at the time. Sometimes the weather has been dry and the trip was wonderful. Sometimes the weather was icy and the trip wasn't so wonderful. Take care to plan extra time, just in case. If the weather looks threatening, find a safe place to wait it out. I would recommend not doing the U-Haul thing until the summer, if possible, or hiring real movers.
That said, I have some really nice friends in Zanesville (east of Columbus on I-70) if you need to stop at a safe place. You practically HAVE to drive near here to get there, so you might as well stop for lunch, or a snack, or whatever. Just let me know.
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Chuck and I drove the Al-Can (Alaska/Canadian Hwy) in October, in a U-Haul (towing a Jeep Grand Cherokee), while I breastfed Christopher (yes, while we were all strapped in our seats). We were well-prepared with maps, and alternate maps, and a trucker's highway stop atlas (truck stops are lifesavers!). It took us ten days to drive from Tuscon, Arizona to Anchorage, Alaska.
You and Nate'll be alright.
Remember: truckstops have internet access and showers!
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I have been together with my husband for twenty years this coming January. We knew we would be getting married within six months, but waited a few years. We definitely grew up together. It is different than couples who meet when they are older and "know who they are," but i don't think one way is better than the other, just differnt.
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Are people getting snitty because you haven't known each other that long? Well, do I have a story for you . . . And feel free to tell it to other people for the shock factor. And also because your decision will seem so much more intelligent when compared to us. . .
Fahim and I met online. Within four or five days, we knew we were in love. He's Muslim, I'm LDS. He's from Sri Lanka, I'm from Canada. Within three weeks, we knew we wanted to marry each other. After much fasting and praying, two weeks later we knew we were going to get married. Three weeks later, I left Canada for Sri Lanka, where I had never been, to get married to a man I had not yet met in person.
Eight hours after I arrived, we were married. The only reason it took that long was because of customs, animal control (I brought my cats with me), and waiting for his friends, the witnesses to show up. We would have been married five minutes after I landed if we could have.
NOW THAT'S INSANE!
By comparison, you can rest assured that you look positively sane, level-headed, and wise.
Fahim and I have now been married a year and 4 months, and no, it's still not a long time, but we still love each other and we're still madly in love, despite the occasional wanting to strangle each other. We're definitely compatible and we are definitely meant for each other.
Moral of the story? It's your life to live and you have to do it in a way that brings you peace and happiness, even if it isn't the path that others would choose for you. Posts: 8355 | Registered: Apr 2003
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Cor and I were engaged within three months, and married within eleven months of our first date. So I certainly can't talk . . .
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Mack, I've thought you had the best sense of humor at Hatrack ever since I first showed up here a few years ago (you've by far gotten the most outloud non-pun-related laughs), and I'd say that more than anything else equips one for a marraige!!
Congratulations and best of luck!!
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And Sara's Benedictine line made me laugh quite hard.
And we've found that Nathan's father shared a sense of humor with the two of us. Telling the story about Nathan locking us out of my car had his dad ROLLING last night. Posts: 14745 | Registered: Dec 1999
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I think we need a northeast area Hatracker post wedding picnic!
Edit: And I PROMISE not to throw plates in the cold, half-frozedn water for Nate to retrieve. I promise. Really, I do. Kwea promises, too. And Bok. Because it is no fun watching him retrieve plates, nope.
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Elizabeth, we were planning on it. Besides, Nathan and I owe Kwea and JenniK a trip to that restaurant he told me about. Posts: 14745 | Registered: Dec 1999
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It's cream colored? That's all you're going to say about it? Come on, mac. Cut? Length? Sleeves? And what about a veil and/or headpiece? Flowers? Shoes? You're killing me.
BTW, I would go with a grey tie for Nathan. I'm just not a fan of black ties and I love grey. I had to go all over Manhattan to find an extra-long gray tie for Andrew for our wedding.
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LOL, I told Mark about every detail of my dress, that it was an a-line sleeveless with a pleated bodice and off-center beading, etc, etc.... and he was like, um, it's sleeveless? Posts: 1681 | Registered: Jun 2004
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See, it's a very simple ceremony with few people. My friend Sarah took me out yesterday to get the dress.
We ended up arguing. We wanted cream because of my complexion. We couldn't find a dress we liked...then Sarah saw this tailored jacket on a pantsuit type thing...it's 3/4 length, cream colored satin type material and looks amazing. We had me showing everyone around the dress area with me in it. We got a lace shell under it, which sets it off really well. I wanted a skirt then. We tried to find one, but nothing looked good. Finally, I accepted Sarah's offer of a pair of trousers she found.
Matched perfectly. Got to parade around again. Was told to get that, even though everyone had EXPECTED a dress, including me, so much so that I argued.
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I'm trying to visualize this. You're wearing a cream-colored jacket from a pantsuit over a lace shirt, with trousers (not from the original pantsuit) of roughly the same color? We need pictures. Posts: 37449 | Registered: May 1999
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What was wrong with the trousers that went with the jacket? Just curious. Can't wait to see the pics. Posts: 7954 | Registered: Mar 2004
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No trousers with jacket, sorry, I should've said that in the first place. It came with a short skirt and really wouldn't be good for 1. a wedding 2. winter. So we went to find a longer skirt and ended up with pants.
We also got to make fun of Hideous Dresses. Posts: 14745 | Registered: Dec 1999
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Nate- congratulations! Both on the wedding and on making the decision to move ahead in life.
Mack, I know I've been really weird to you about a lot of stuff, but never about this subject. And I wholeheartedly hope for you and Nathan's happiness. I'm sorry the church didn't work out for you.
Quids, I think I have you beat but coudn't quite decode your timeline. Keeping in mind that I knew he was the man the first time we met but he didn't really think of me as dateable for a year and a half- we went on our first "date" thanksgiving, were engaged on Solstice and married 14 years ago tomorrow. So that's five weeks of dating and 8 days of engagement.
One time my grandma did note on the back of a picture something to the effect that she was pleasantly surprised we were still together.
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Just going by the cold facts, the odds seem to be against you. A betting man would bet against you.
But there is much more to it than the cold facts. I don't know either of you that well, and you are much better equipped to make this decisin than I ever could be.
Each time I have thought this (the odds are against you) about somebody I knew getting married, they have beat the odds and have had a good marriage.
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Sounds intriguing, mac. How are the pants and jacket cut? Is the jacket like a suit jacket or a frock coat?
I think that you should consider wearing flowers in your hair. There is something so charming about garlands on girls with short hair and I think it would be a perfect compliment to the pants and jacket. Also, since you are wearing a jacket, you'll need a corsage.
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A bit sooner than I thought, though...but not by much.
FWIW, Hubby and I were married 2 weeks after we met. That was almost 8 years ago, and we were 20 and 21.
I'm not saying we haven't had rough times. I'm not saying I haven't felt murderous urges. I'm not even saying I've always thought it was a good idea. All I'm saying is...there are MANY (much worse) mistakes you could make.
I wish you both a loving, stable marriage and long, happy lives together.
(You're welcome to come visit me in Oklahoma anytime, you know. And let me know when that present arrives, Jamie.)
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Y'know if you survive the road trip together, the marriage will probably be easy thereafter. AJ
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See, considering I'm nineteen in three months this is the sort of thing that makes me feel... both really young and really old.
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