quote:Am I causing people to start having kinky thoughts?
You forget that we've read your survey now. Don't pretend you didn't expect that reaction.
Unless you're also putting one finger to the side of your mouth, your eyebrows raised in feigned naivete. Then you can pretend. Because that's also hot.
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It isn't, actually. I dated someone ten years my senior three years ago (I was 21). She had more problems with it than I did.
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My friends and I have discussed this at length, but we don't limit ourselves. We prefer to ask, "Why are women always crazy?"
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I'm really really beginning to regret not being able to go to that link (websense has blocked it out)
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I also propose that men are not crazy...we're just stupid, and quite proud of it. (Well, at least I am.) Posts: 3852 | Registered: Feb 2002
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Ah...I assumed being insesitive was a result of being stupid. Silly me.
But the good thing is, when we occasionally do something smart and sensitive, then it is worth a lot more than if we were that way all the time.
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I've been thinking about the age difference thing myself.
On the one hand, it can be argued that if two people really care for each other, the age difference should be meaningless. Especially the older you get (i.e: my mom and step dad are 12 years apart, but she was 37 when she married him, so it wasn't even remotely a consideration. 12 years difference for me, though, puts a girl at 19.)
But at the same time I can't help but wonder that, for example, if I, now 31, was pursuing a girl at 18-20, I would really not be looking out for her best interests. That is, I would be not be giving her time to really figure out who she is and what she wants out of life before shackling her to a life she may not have later wanted.
We do know that those years are very formative and that personal interests/desires change quite a bit, even into the mid 20's.
I don't know. I'm not really interested in anyone that young. But I wonder if it'd be a potential problem. Then again, people change anyway, regardless of age.
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Of course not. We just have to judge that along with her insane hotness and her ability to inspire kinky thoughts. Posts: 3852 | Registered: Feb 2002
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So IanO, did you consider the difference going the other way? What about you at 31 dating a girl in the area of 43 or so?
I am 31, and have dated guys in a range from 8 years younger than me to 12 years older. I've found the person matters much more than the age.
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quote:Are you people serious? you know "Alt" could be a 46 yr old guy for all you know.
Who cares? Its not like they are setting up a meeting with her.
And you have to realize that a good number of us have met eachother. I personally have met dozens of hatrackers, and each and every one of them who claimed to be a young woman/girl, turned out to be one! Shocking, I know. (Sadly, those claiming to be 46 year old dudes didn't end up being young women either)
Plus I am currently living with someone I met on this very site...
Being attracted to someone based on their words and a pic isn't as scary as the early-internet urban legends make it sound.
Plus, you don't have a guarantee in real life either. Without a complete gynecological inspection, can you ever truly know the gender of someone you are attracted to?
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My ex-wife was older (and more worldly wise) than me and it (not solely, but partly) was a source of many problems. Long story.
I guess I'm a tad jaded about it. Unfair, I know.
More practically speaking, however, is the fact that I want to have more kids. We only had one because she had health problems that made it dangerous. And the health risks for a woman in her 40's are higher.
I guess I have issues.
But I'm not closed to anything.
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What?! I never heard that Canada plays in the World Series.
But as far as I recall from hearing, the US rejects other nations, and doesn't want them to join in as teams. Also, if it's a world-series, then they should have national teams, right?
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I think once someone has reached their early or mid-twenties any age difference is fine, but I do think that when someone is still a teenager and is dating someone even five years older, the chance that they are being exploited skyrockets.
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quote:Originally posted by StickyWicket: Are you people serious? you know "Alt" could be a 46 yr old guy for all you know.
How exactly am I to prove that I am most definately NOT a 46 year old dude? God people, how long have I been on this site and people still doubt my identity? I think its time to make me real. Who's near El Cajon, CA?
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quote:But as far as I recall from hearing, the US rejects other nations, and doesn't want them to join in as teams. Also, if it's a world-series, then they should have national teams, right?
Well as mentioned, the Toronto Blue Jays and the Montreal Expos are canadian teams (are the Expos still around?).
I, personally, would love it if there were teams from outside the US in the league, but its a matter of logistics more than exclusivity I would think. The canadian/US border has far fewer restrictions than any other country to have teams in. These teams play over a hundred games a season, so distance is a factor as well. Add to that the fact that with the current draft/trading system, you could be moved out of country on a whim of your general manager. Would kind of stink for that player.
I can see Puerto Rico getting a team someday, but they are technically still part of the US.
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See, that's what I was thinking Kat, but I wasn't expressing it clearly. I wasn't so much talking about the age difference itself as the lower age of the other person, even when clearly a legal adult, in relation to me. I'm not (and will not be) that creepy older guy hitting on 19 year old girls.
But I wondered if I was the only one who felt that it would not be a good idea.
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I don't know how close santa rosa is to you. I'm not sure if im even cosidered real even though i was at endercon.
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Ian, I agree. I think it is creepy when someone who has seen a lot of the world can only make him or herself attractive to those who haven't.
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Baseball teams? Me? Hearing about them? Ha!
*Yawn* - you've obviously never heard of Wes Hall, Don Bradman*, Richie Benaud, or ven the modern stars: Brett Lee (bowls at 95 mph), Adam Gilchrist (who bats for about 4 hours before being out and goes off when he thinks that he's out - regardless of the umpire), or Jason Gillespie (the "Gypsy" whose "caravan is in repair").
Then again, I never saw Babe Ruth. That whole business about the Red Sox being cursed gave me enough reason not to look at Baseball. The best that came out of Baseball was Joe Dimagio (sp?), whom I only like because it fits nicely in Mrs. Robinson's lyrics. Again, that's Simon and Garfunkel - not he himself.
Sure, I'm biased, but what self-respecting non-North-American Anglo-Saxon would watch some game with their easy-batting techniques? I'd like to see a "batter" (why not "batsman"? "Batter" reminds me of rams) try and bat from a tougher position holding the bat vertically and not in a swing-prepared position.
* Who was knighted for his skills as a player; he was told to have had "more records than a gramophone company".
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Nicely put. It's why I am looking in the 22+ range, for that very reason, though obviously there are going to be exceptions (i.e.: An older person who has been sheltered and is extremely naive versus a 19 year-old who has had alot of life experience. But that's the exception, not the rule.)
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quote: Are you in Snoopys back yard in Santa Rosa Chris?
yeah i live in santa rosa. I was born and raised here. what book store are you going to. my fridays are really busy with helping do luandry and other errands.
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Oh, man. An old high school friend just visited, and we were talking about how nonhorrified we were in high school when one of our teachers dated a senior. It is so incredibly creepy to think about now.
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